admin There is a lot about relationships that is difficult. Creating a good one requires a lot of patience, compromise, and a willingness to think about what another person wants and feels in a situation. One of the most difficult things that you can face in a relationship, however, is a situation where the two of you have become very close, and yet you seem to have stalled.
If you have been with a man for some time, and he tells you that he loves and cares for you, it can be very frustrating and confusing if he takes no interest in making a formal commitment. There may be some steps you can take, though, to get the two of you moving forward together.
The first thing that you need to look at is your own attitude. You need to keep in mind what you really want in life. If your ultimate goal is marriage and children, you need to be clear about the fact that this particular man is not your only choice to achieve that. You will be in a much more emotionally powerful position if you know that you are in control of what kind of relationship you will be in, and that you have the right to move on to look for someone who wants the same things that you want if this mean does not.
This knowledge alone can make a big difference. Some women find that the moment they pull back a little and seem less like they are desperate to hold onto this specific man, he suddenly becomes much more interested in getting a formal commitment. After all, trying to get him to commit may just not be working because he already feels no fear at all that he could lose you anyway.
You should also be willing to be vulnerable. Men sometimes do not realize how deeply they really care until they see the woman they love in pain and realize how tremendous their own need to soothe that pain truly is. If you have an injury or are in a difficult emotional situation, hiding your pain in order to be as fun and pleasant as possible may not be your best course. Revealing that you are hurting may just push him over the edge into realizing how much he desires to spend the rest of his life honoring and protecting you.
You can not force someone into a relationship that he truly does not want. When someone has made it clear that he loves you but you still can’t get a commitment from your guy, he probably just needs a little nudge to help him realize for himself that it is time for the next step.